Absolutely(ish)! I mean it! I mean...I'm just sayin'... 

"I'm so @#&*?$ done with this; I'm not going to take it anymore!" (I'm tired, exhausted, frustrated...)

"I'm so over you!" (I want to move on but my heart and mind haven't yet...)

"I can't go on without you" (I don't want to; it's the last thing I want but...)

"Gold medal or nothing!" (I'm gonna' do my best, hope for the best, after all this prep...)

"You never, always, every time..." (Well, it sure seems like it due to how it affects me)

"You're the best!" (How do you know; you hardly know me...placing a high bar so early...)

Target Rich Environment: Especially during times of excitement as well as in moments of less favorable drama, times of duress, they swirl around us every day, if we only listen closely. We all make them, just not all the time. Things we say, frequently ill advised, intended to have IMPACT, but are just as frequently met with a counter, dramatic, hyperbolic, maybe absolute statement, which is generally followed by a lot of energy spent unnecessarily, unwisely, and inefficiently, and finally a feeling of ineffectiveness ("We just can't talk about anything!"). Whether we are listening to politically polarizing commentaries (very prominent during the last election and well past, including but not exclusive to discussions about vaccines, etc.) or more sensational celebrations like the Olympics (during which I have more often heard such statements coming from more practiced wordsmiths, journalists and 'hosts' than the athletes themselves...shame on them, they should know better!), we don't have to wait long on any given day to either hear such unrealistic words/phrases or, in all honesty, to be completely humble, be tempted if not utter them ourselves. 

A Study in Contrasts -- Equivocation, Nothing but: Notice, even early in this post, the co-existence, juxtaposition of both words reflecting absolutes (e.g. "always, never, every, all, completely, anything, nothing, etc.") and those reflecting a degree of hesitation, doubt, hedging...equivocation (e.g. "just, maybe, sometimes, frequently, often, generally, very, etc."). Very commonplace in everyday conversation, ranging from casual, mundane, benign...to discussions of matters critical, instrumental, life impacting. Or, in more colorful wording, from the "ridiculous to the sublime". In my office, where I have more 'relative' control, this routinely becomes a therapy session within a session, as once such dramatic, absolute words and statements accumulate, I call "time out" or "pause" to discuss more reasoned language that allows us to get to true understanding quicker. This applies to when I am having a conversation with an individual, probably quicker if I am facilitating a conversation between family (i.e., 'relative') members. Easy to describe, hard to practice.

Exclaim, Claim, then Disclaim - Most, not All: What I usually refer to as "Zinger" statements to those in my presence, words and statements usually made in moments of great frustration ("I should have never been born, I should just go and...") or even great aspiration ("World record or bust!"), they also range from actually being calculated, such as deliberate attempts to take parents off the hunt by a scheming adolescent, to selfies designed to psych up ourselves, or psych out our opponents, even simultaneously...once in a great while actually backed up by the issuer, as in..."I'm the greatest of all time!" Most if not all in my Gen will readily associate this with the late, great, Greatest, ONE AND ONLY Muhammad Ali, who first laid claim to this moniker in 1963 (in a poem😆) and repeatedly backed these words up with action 💪, as well as words, words and actions that effectively got into his opponents' heads and 'under their skin'. As for the rest of us, we may come up short and probably fail the..."Would You Believe...?" test, whose issuer, another 'icon' from our Gen, "Agent 86" (played by Don Adams as "Maxwell Smart") in the popular series "Get Smart" (the popularity of which was reflected in such ratings that sustained it for five seasons and 138 episodes), was opposite that of the more competent "99" (Barbara Feldon) who, along with "The Chief" (Head of CONTROL, Edward Platt), had to endure a predictable series of whopper claims (aka 'zingers') as to why a mission went awry, having to explain himself in any given situation (sounding familiar yet?), which usually, only after a protracted series of predictable responses from The Chief/99 ("No we don't, absolutely not, unbelievable!") ended with an equivocation from 86, something at least approximating reality, semi-believable...laughable on the show, what we looked forward to each week, while totally perplexing, even exhausting, in real life...

So, if you're about to make a Zinger statement, whether pro or con, you might want to tap your "Get Smart" watch to see if passes the "Would you believe...?" app test (someone's gonna patent this, why not you?). But if, on the other hand, you're ready to back it up, if you are once and for all, totally "done with this" you are in good company, kindred with Twisted Sister's 1984 Zinger:

"We're not gonna take it anymore..."

On the other hand, opposite these long haired rockers, reaching back for a more endearing, even affirming message, we have some other good/Bad Company, belting out:

"I can't get enough of your love..." - from "Can't Get Enough", 1974

One more endearing, enduring message associated with "The Greatest" I'll leave you with, at least for now: "If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it, then I can achieve it"

TRUE ENOUGH.

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