(Desperately) seeking Solace...and Re-YOUnification

Parenthetically speaking:  As in "qualified remarks" or...conditions under which we as individuals or even a whole nation...resort to seeking comfort, consolation via reaching out to one another, such as times of distress, sadness...

Calling for: a day of national mourning...followed by long nights by those most intimately, deeply affected, which individuals and families tell me, during grieving, are the hardest to get through...

Comes, of no surprise: Not any more, that is...that I get either a text, email, more likely a VM, indicating "just wanted to hear your voice, and know that I could count on you to listen...no need to return my call...thanks for being there" Which became more commonplace the longer I "practiced" and which was frequently followed, qualified by ("I know you're not actually awake...are you?!") 

In-Conveniencing, each other: You no longer have to convince me that when someone (desperately) needs us, it's not always on my/your timetable...nor at a time that's other-wise convenient...

In Return: I don't actually expect what's called, in relationship lingo, "reciprocity" -- no more than any others who find themselves consoling others. But what I'm really referring to here is an actual return to what stage theorists and those that consider themselves "guarded optimists"...

In Theory, back to...An earlier stage that was, at least to US now, "simpler...kinder...a time of togetherness...idyllic" In other word, "Halcyon days". In developmental theory, represented, for example, by the theorist Erik Erikson, as "Trust versus Mistrust" -- which spans about the first two years of life (in human terms but hard to put a timetable on what's called "nation building") and is considered to lay the foundation for feelings of basic security -- knowing that our cries will be at least heard, if not answered, and our caregivers will them-selves, do no harm...which later on gets tested and retested as we grow, become independent...defiant even...In other words, increasing times of disagree-meant..."I just can't stand what you stand for...(with which I haven't bothered to familiarize my-self..."). Speaking of, searching for... 

Proof Positive, negatively speaking: Not a conflict in terms, once I get the chance to clarify, if you'd only listen...Which, in my case (at least professionally speaking) I have grown, to appreciate that, while relationships, self-esteem is bolstered by statements of affirmation, the real litmus test for a strong foundation is whether WE, after discussing a topic of disagreement, other-wise a sensitive subject, walk away from each other..."we don't have to agree...but now I better understand..." (in other words "mutual approachability") Which, practiced over time...becomes U.S...

National Identity: As an individual stage follows several years after Stage One is (hopefully) successfully realized, completed, unencumbered by "trust issues"...Which, in terms of nation building, may, based on recent events and discourse, may still be in its infancy...(hope-fully, not beyond its prime, on its way out, like lots predict...)...

Stage after Age...As in "through the years, as we grow..." and re-learn to approach, then even trust one another...maybe, Just Maybe we will finally have removed the obstacles and conditions that create such (parenthetical), qualifying state-meants...

I, My-self: have more to say, on this...and that: 1) "paying dearly" for security breaches; 2) policies, procedures, and pro-tocols.